Why It’s Good To Give In Secret

Daily Prompt: Random Act of Kindness

We never find out what the bottom secrets are.
We never know the bottom secrets.

Tell us about the time when you performed a secret random act of kindness — where the recipient of your kindness never found out about your good deed. How did the deed go down?

Hmm, if I write about a secret act of kindness it becomes no longer a secret. Thus, it loses it’s secret charm, intent, and purity. It becomes something other than what it was meant to be.

Not gonna tell ya.

This time of year secret Santas are often reported; someone leaves a large tip for a waitress, a large sum of money is left in a Salvation Army kettle, or an anonymous person pays for a strangers lay-away items.

This generosity usually occurs around the Christmas Holiday season. Indeed the motive for such giving is likely pure and well-meaning. It warms the heart and renews, in many, the hope of human generosity and compassion.

The fact remains these are so infrequent and random they make news. If there was a true spirit of giving these things would abound to the point that it would be the analogous to ’dog bites man.’

A person who is generous in secret is secure in himself. He doesn’t need accolades or any sort of recognition. He did good and that’s enough for him and for those receiving the kind act.

The Bible encourages generosity and gifts made in secret. There are practical reasons beyond my understanding. If a gift is given to a person in private it spares them a measure of indignity. Everyone has a measure of pride. To make a spectacle of giving to one in need could have a shaming effect on them. How much better it is when a gift is given to someone in private. How much sweeter the satisfaction? Attention is not focused on the giver and the receiver is spared possible embarrassment. Neither becomes exploited.

Note what is recorded at Matthew 6:1-4; “Take care not to practice your righteousness in front of men to be noticed by them; otherwise you will have no reward with your Father who is in the heavens. 2 So when you make gifts of mercy, do not blow a trumpet ahead of you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, so that they may be glorified by men. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full. 3 But you, when making gifts of mercy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4 so that your gifts of mercy may be in secret. Then your Father who looks on in secret will repay you.”

There is an honesty and purity about secret giving; motives cannot be challenged by others or most importantly ourselves. “There is more happiness in giving than receiving,” so says the Bible at Acts 20:35. And how much more so when in secret.

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  1. Well said; I wondered what you might say about this topic. Random acts of kindness happen, but at best, are too infrequent. We all need to practice doing these. Many of them do not require cash. A random act of kindness can be forgiveness, politeness, and allowing others to have what is rightfully yours. The flesh wants to hang on to wrongs done to us, and label them for future reference. Politeness might seem to be something we would exercise at all times; however, at times politeness in the face of disrespect is a gift. Finally, letting others get credit for things we have done is tough to do. I find myself bankrupt in ways I can ill afford. Thank you for the reminder.

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