Write about the last disagreement you had with a friend or family member — from their perspective.
I don’t know how old I was when I figured out that most battles aren’t worth fighting.
There comes those times when you dig your heels in, brace yourself, and take a stand. Yes, there are times when one has to stand for something, but only on a principle greater than your own pride, convenience, or ego.
The key – knowing.
Sometimes differences are like Word War I. The result of the war; little was gained, but many lives were lost. The lesson – war is stupid.
Without going into the gory details of a bitter disagreement several years ago I concluded that family relationships are far more important than a victory for one side or another. I reached for what was thought to be a compromise; ‘Let’s move on from this point, you have your point of view and I have mine. I will respect and live with yours if you will respect and live with mine. I’m not asking you to change yours so don’t expect me to change mine. It is likely in time our positions will adjust, but they’re more easily adjusted if we are friends.’
To this day we don’t speak.
Sometimes it is impossible to see the other persons perspective, but you can sure live with the fact they have one.
Friendships and good relationships are based not so much on seeing the other person’s perspective as it is tolerating what that person thinks or believes. Tolerating does not mean you agree, but shows that you dignify the person by allowing them to have their own perspective. A person who wants you to adjust your perspective for the sake of your friendship robs you of dignity; they are not a friend.
Perspective does not change truth. When there is a disagreement of threatening proportions the truth is that there is blame on both sides. Let each side call it a draw, leave the battlefields, and write their own history, but in secret.
The real victor becomes peace.
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